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Hi Everyone,
It’s been a while since my last show reminder.  This week the segment is called the Power of communication- what do you really want to say?  the show will be hosted on Thursday 17th at 8:00pm EST, and I am looking forward to having some of you join me and my special guest Sheila Radha Conrad.

Communication is the key to living a successful life - both inner and outer communication. When we interact with others we engage in conversation, but are seldom 100% present.  Have you ever noticed the conversation that may be taking place on the inside simultaneously while we engage with others.
What types of things are you saying to yourself?
What judgments are you making?
What assumptions come up for you?
What agreements do you make with yourself and  others?
Do your nonverbal cues reinforce what is being said?

Our inner conversation determines our outer conversation, it will determine whether or not it is engaging or detached, negative or positive, false or sincere. Ever notice how a room full of people can listen and interpret something  different from each other, even though the speaker  said one thing, gave one talk to the group? We interpret, listen and communicate through filters, our beliefs, our experiences, our emotions, our moods, our bodies.

Come join Sheila Radha Conrad and me, Lydia Mattison at an Empowering Space Thursday  @ 8:00pm.
www.blogtalkradio.com/empoweringspace  We will discuss how we give our power away through our language, the words we use, what we say and how we say it.

The number to call is 347 215 8414.  If you are feeling shy, join us in the chat room. We will answer your questions on air. I look forward to sharing the space with you. Feel free to pass this email on to anyone who you think may benefit.
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Lydia Mattison CPC

I wish you a happy, healthy, joyous 2009. As this new year begins it is important to remember the wisdom you learned from last year. One of the recurring themes, for me, in 2008 was pay attention to the negative thoughts that arise in my mind. Address them immediately by saying, ” that is based on a bad belief that does not serve me, I chose to change that to a positive belief that does serve me and makes me feel good about myself and others.” Changing old negative beliefs into positive beliefs, can be a fun challenge for the new year. Enjoy the game. I wish you peace, joy, and love, Radha www.lifemasteryskills.com

Mastering Communication
A Self-Empowering Guide To A Fulfilling Life
by Sheila Radha Conrad

You’ve heard the saying, “It’s all about me.” That is exactly right. Your relationship with yourself is the most important one in your life. Especially in communication. How you talk to yourself and what you say strongly shapes how you present yourself. Those inner dialogs become you in the outer world. People react to how they sense you feel about yourself along with anything you say.

“I would never think of standing up to my boss or correcting my husband. I’m a little shy around them and I’m afraid they’ll blow up. But, I get so mad at their superior attitude, especially when I am right.” That is someone’s inner voice at work. It guarantees a communication breakdown and creates a roadblock to this person getting what she wants.

Listen to yourself. Are you being your best friend or your worst enemy, the choice is yours. As long as you are feeling sorry for yourself you have a good excuse for staying stuck. You can find fault and blame someone else for making you angry. You get to avoid looking at your inner thoughts and making some changes in your attitudes.

Taking responsibility for what goes on in your head is a step toward freedom. Pay attention and you can learn to set aside that inner judge, then accept and love yourself exactly as you are. Being the real you leads to open and honest communication. As you develop a positive inner dialogue, you can give up your negative judgments about yourself. You can be assertive and communicate clearly without anxiety. You can feel worthy of having positive and supportive relationships with the people in your life.

Try putting that same skill to work when listening to others by making sure you hear what is truly being said. Feed it back.  “What I heard you say is…” When you accept the other person and can confidently admit your own mistakes, a dialog can  begin. You will be able to listen to the message beyond the words. Communications skills are the key to getting along with other people.

What makes these ideas work is not just reading them or understanding them. They work when you act on them in your daily life, over and over.  They become who you are. When you can hear your inner dialogue clearly, you can quiet your mind and open your self to a new and exciting way of communicating. You will also find a renewed appreciation of yourself as a warm and caring person.
How do you get started? Make the choice to be in charge of your communications. Then try to re-imagine a situation you found challenging. Slow your thoughts down and look within for guidance as to how you can change your words to make it work out for the better. Rehearse the situation again until you feel confidant you can handle it comfortably. Next time the situation arises, allow response to happen naturally. Your results will be much closer to your desires. This is just one of many simple exercises that can lead to insights, the release of limitations and a positive change in energy and understanding.
© Sheila Radha Conrad 2008
From her book, “Self Recognition”, counselor  and trainer, Sheila Radha Conrad offers free Life Mastery Skills exercises on her web site at http://www.lifemasteryskills.com

In order to  communicate clearly, we must first know what it is we are truly wanting to say. We need to ask ourselves, are we communicating in a way that makes it easy for others to hear us? Would we be open to hearing what we are saying, and how we are saying it? These are excellent guide lines to become aware of how and what our goals are when we speak with another.

See more @ www.lifemasteryskills.com