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Aloha Friends,                                                  12/03/09

As I think about the holiday season and the tradition of gift giving, I contemplate the many gifts that life gives each of us. Often we take life’s gifts for granted and only when they are gone do we feel the value of the gift we have lost. Health is one such gift.

For the last two months I have been writing the things in my life I am grateful for and as I do this the list keeps growing. One reason this is happening is that I have begun to be grateful for everything I experience in my life whether I enjoy it or not. This is new for me. It all began when I started asking when I was in a challenging situation, what is the gift in this. This takes patience because the gift is not always immediately known.

In the past I would have asked, what is the lesson.  Although I learned from this approach, I always felt I had done something wrong and needed to learn my lesson so I could be better. By asking what is the gift, I feel positive, I am affirming there are no mistakes, I am fine the way I am and every experience, regardless how challenging, has hidden in it a gift.

This new approach is showing me that life wants us to see the gifts and relax and know that we and everyone else is perfect the way we are. My judgmental mind does not like this approach, however, whenever I do this I feel great.

The gift I send to you this holiday season is the gift of self forgiveness and the peace which comes from self acceptance. I, also, offer you the opportunity to ask yourself when you are in a challenging situation, what is the gift. I know you will be delighted with the results.

I wish you a joyous, love filled holiday season.

I send you blessings of peace, joy and love, Radha

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Aloha Friends,                                           Nov. 12, 2009

I want to explore the concept of gratitude. Many of us know it is important to feel and be grateful for our health, our loved ones, our jobs, our home, our country, and our friends.

I want to give you the opportunity to be grateful for yourselves, just as you are right now. Yes, I am suggesting you don’t need to change, improve, lose or gain weight or get a different job.

Although self improvement may be very rewarding it can also be a subtle form of self rejection, in which, we are consistently judging ourselves with the intent to make ourselves better, or good enough. What we may not realize, is under this well intentioned activity is a the unconscious belief that we are not perfect just as we are.

Yes, that means with all our limitations, flaws and imperfections, we are perfect just as we are.

Close your eyes and imagine what it feels like in your body, in your heart and mind to feel you are perfect right now and so is everyone else. Nothing needs to change to experience perfection.

Our minds do not like this at all, because the first thing that happens is the mind starts saying “there is no way my thighs are perfect” or whatever else is on your  personal list of faults you want to change.

Let’s be playful and imagine feeling a deep heart felt gratitude and love for every area in our mind and body that we think is not good enough  or at least needs improvement before we could feel love and gratitude for it.

What magic would happen if we could see ourselves with  loving and grateful eyes rather than critical eyes, right now. How would you feel toward a friend who said I will love you and be grateful for having you in my life when and if you lose weight, or get a job, or are less shy?

We do this to ourselves very often, only we may not be aware of what we are doing. I am writing to you so you will be aware and may choose to have more compassion for yourselves and be kinder and more gentle with yourselves.

I love you just as you are and I am grateful you are in my life exactly as you are right now.

My prayer and blessing is that you feel that way about yourself,  Sheila Radha

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Although we, as a nation and a people, are in challenging financial times, it is important to remember how to create abundance as well as a positive outlook for our future.

Everywhere I go people are agreeing that we are experiencing had times and they will probably get worse before they get better. Before you jump on that idea and make it your own, remember this: WE CREATE OUR REALITY BASED ON OUR BELIEFS AND WHAT WE PUT OUR ENERGY/ATTENTION INTO.

Fear creates more fear, if you doubt it look at how fear has impacted our country in the last 7 years. What is true for and individual is true for a nation, which is made up of individuals.

Each of us has a challenge and a responsibility to resist the temptation of pessimism and negativity. No one truly knows how our nation’s financial situation will be resolved and how long it will take.

What we do know is how our mind, body and spirit our impacted when we believe things are bad and going to get worse.

TAKE A MOMENT RIGHT NOW, AND SENSE INTO YOUR BODY AND SEE HOW YOUR BREATHING, AND WHAT YOUR LEVEL OF TENSION IS IN YOUR BODY, AND WHAT THOUGHTS ARISE FOR YOU WHEN YOU FEAR FOR YOUR FINANCIAL STABILITY.

My experience is my breathing becomes shallow, my shoulders tense, multiple fears and worry thoughts begin arising in my mind.

The mind is very powerful, it creates emotions, body sensations and more thoughts that perpetuate our beliefs, whether those are negative or positive beliefs and concepts.

As an inner activist it is my responsibility to focus on the state I desire, not the state I fear, i.e. Abundance rather than Scarcity. If each one of us decided to spend 5-10 minutes a day saying out loud how grateful we are for all we have, which is our abundance, we would attract more abundance. “Like attracts like”.

How his works is that when we are grateful our hearts are open, we feel good about ourselves and others, and we are able to attract and receive more of the abundance that is around us. The human condition is such, that we forget and ignore what we have and focus on what we want, this means our energy/attention is going to wanting rather than having. The secret to an abundant life is having gratitude and faith. Taking the time to acknowledge everyday what you are grateful for and the faith that you will be able  and are creating the abundance you desire. When we have this attitude we feel better about ourselves and we become move giving to other, which makes us more generous, which attracts more abundance.

Each of us has the power to become aware of how we are creating our reality and if we like what we are creating and how it makes us feel. We also have the capacity to change what we don’t like and support what we do like. Gratitude is one of the main supports needed to create abundance.

November is a month, in which, many of us give thanks. Thanksgiving is a national holiday to acknowledge our gratitude for all we have. I suggest you don’t wait for a specific day to express your gratitude, all days are valuable and contribute to our sense of scarcity or abundance depending on how we think, feel and act.

You have the power to focus on that which makes you a more joyous, generous, open and receptive person who is grateful for the rewards as well as the challenges in life.

I wish you a life filled with peace, joy and love, Radha

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